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Inspirational Motivation

friendships and my flight ….


Clutched into a trap of emotions, fears regrets under the sag of guilt I’ve past six years of my life.
With all those messy thoughts and noise signals suppressing my informative signals getting into my brain .I’ve waited this long and important period of my life.
People usually call it as depression but I could have never found any strong reason to call it depression I said I was just messed up wasn’t in really.
Being an understanding and responsible father my dad took me to psychologist for counseling and to a psychiatrist t but when I didn’t get any better he changed my doctor .year after year I’ve been treated under many different psychiatric supervision.
But the situation was getting worst and worst I moved to hostel where I was unable to adjust and overcome my mess.
After a long time period of time when I met one of my old friends, she observed something really unusual.
She asked me “where is my Jahnavi “.
I replied here “I am right in front of you “.but she wasn’t convinced with all those pointes I presented to justify my unusual behavior.
After a friendship of 15 years she knew me so well that she could clearly look deep into my soul and thy brain of mine, it didn’t took hrs for her to figure out my mess.
She didn’t consoled me neither did she asked anything. She only used to come at my place took me somewhere to eat and have fun and let me express all of my emotions. She didn’t advised me anything .she just made me introduced to the real me , she made me realized that I m special ,I m strong ,that I could do anything I wish to .
More like lord hanuman I’ve just forgotten my powers all I need to be jus recall them.
So she started spending most of her time hearing me and I puked all my mess in front of her and trust me that was damm relaxing.
This process was more like doing amplitude modulation by passing an attenuated signal through a low pass filter making it free from noise and retrieving only information signals.
Now my brain was only getting informative signals and I started discovering my own new personality shaping it according to the way I wanted to be, rather than stay spilled on to the wall.
Truly a friend in need is a friend indeed…
A friend did what no psychologist and psychiatrist could do.
She made my soul free, free from that cage of mess and made me what I m today
I m free today, free from regret, free from all those scary thoughts, guit and free from that word of depression.
I use to think why we need friend and now I know all of us need a true friend more than anything else.
Do share all your inner demons with your friends ,call them ,tell them that you are so lucky to have them ,tell them every small to smallest thing that feels buried in .just split all that up don’t swallow it down.
Love your friends, respect them…
Be with them in all those time when you need them and all those times when they need you.
Live free…
Feel free…
Be you, keep sharing, and keep smiling…
Thanks for reading

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Health Uncategorized

fly high!!


Hey friends hope you remember about my last article on menstruation and its awareness!!!
Well today I’m gonna talk about something related to it, today i’ll be talking about menstrual hygiene and lack of awareness. People like you and me most of us don’t know how our menstrual hygiene is important, lack of attention could lead you to infertility,vaginal infections or it may leads to death also …
When we call something is private it is surely be hidden and taken care of especially. So as our private body parts.
I guess most of you might be well aware of sanitary napkins (pads), have seen in many advertisements .right? Surely.
But have you ever heard of the thing like tampons, menstrual cups, thinx, reusable washable pads? I guess not at least all of them.
So yes other than sanitary napkins there is more menstrual stuff available in the market for not only women hygiene but also the empowerment.
How many of you do think that being a female you should avoid swimming or cycling or may be racing and any another exercising stuff? Do these stain fear stop you somewhere in the ground? Doesn’t let you fly high or to dive deep into sea. Well not any more there are things for you tampons and menstrual cups are the two sensational products that have changed women’s life to a great extent well you don’t wear then more like pads but these things are meant to insert.
Starting with tampons; a tampon is a mass of absorbent material, primarily used as a feminine hygiene product. At present, tampons are designed to be easily inserted in .to the vagina during menstruation and absorb the menstrual flow.

A menstrual cup is a feminine hygiene product that is inserted into the vagina during menstruation. Its purpose is to prevent menstrual fluid (blood containing uterine lining) from leaking onto clothes. Menstrual cups are usually made of flexible medical grade silicone and shaped like a bell with a stem. The stem is used for insertion and removal. The bell-shaped cup seals against the vaginal wall just below the cervix. Every 4–12 hours (depending on the amount of flow), the cup is removed, emptied, rinsed, and reinserted.

In short tampons in some highly absorbable cottony tube that is inserted into the vaginal area and this absorbs blood while cups are made of some soft fiber that is inserted in the vaginal part to collect blood this could be washed and reinserted after 12 to 24 hrs .so now no need to worry about blood stains.
Now moving on to thinx I m dam sure you haven’t heard of it .well these are menstrual panties where the crotch is 4 layers thick and absorbs light to medium amounts of menstrual flow. Girls/young women can wear this type of underwear with or without a tampon. They are washable and reusable and environmentally friendly. So now no need to wearing pads too … well they are quite expensive yet they are way more comfortable than anything else.
Not just this we have more of reusable, washable pads and wide range of tampons and menstrual cups but these entire have some or other limitations along. But in future there would be something more compatible for sure.
Well friends today I won’t ask any questions? But just wait stop and think are you really taking care of your menstrual hygiene and all those women around you see I know that’s quite tough to accept new things but why not? Let’s fly high without looking back …
Try to know more about hygiene products…
Be safe, live life healthy, stay aware …
Thanks for reading ….

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Education Health

Being woman and taboos


I was 10 when I got introduced to this term “periods” with a big shhhh…..
My pain, irritations, discomfort, all those mood swings and my sickness was a secret among me and other women in the house.
I can’t discuss anything about it openly shhhh….shhhh…
I always thought when the use of baby diapers and sanitary napkins are so alike then, why they are supplied like drugs .That feels so embarrassing to ask for a pad from a male shopkeeper and all those layers of newspaper wrapping and then into a black polythene passed beneath the table .not just that after all that you need to find another safe place to hide your secret.
In fact how many of you know about all those myths and all thy shitty rule women have to follow during these days?
Let me tell you there is a whole damm list of protocols different for the women in different community .like if you are a “Jain” you could relate to it  most. Have you ever noticed that on some particular days your mom doesn’t serve you food? That she is not sleeping on bed and wearing rags (clothes she probably won’t wear during normal days)? Have you seen here eating alone? And have you ever observed her walking out in the dark? Well if not then I guess you need to open up your eyes.
Let’s start from the basics what is menstruation? Menstruation, also known as a period or monthly, is the regular discharge of blood and mucosal tissue (known as menses) from the inner lining of the uterus through the vagina. The first period usually begins between twelve and fifteen years of age, a point in time known as menarche. In simpler words after a particular age female ovaries starts releasing ovum (egg) and this gets fertile when a sperm fusses with it later which turns into a baby .for which after every 28 days a female body starts preparing developing a muscular cushion for the baby in the uterus for its protection and further development .now when an egg is released and doesn’t gets fertile the muscular wall automatically starts decaying (shedding) and discharging the waste through vagina in the form of blood. Since this process is a bit slow so this usually ends up within 120-170hrs.yes we bleed for 5 to 7 days continuously in a month .Amazed? Or shocked?
What did you find here worth hiding? What is there to be embarrassed of?
It is not a disease it’s just another biological process and it doesn’t only happens with humans but elephants and apes do have periods too. More like when you pee or you do shit, when you discuss your constipation and diarrhea openly. When you Indians laugh upon fart jokes along with your friend’s .This is as usual as all those things.
I don’t say I’m sick these days or it’s that time of the month I clearly I don’t hesitate to say hey I m on my periods. And I’ m proud to be a woman because I ‘m the one who could do anything, when I could bear such great pain, when I can deal with all those challenges during those days. this is what motivates me every time that I m more powerful than any guy around me it’s just that he could throw thing and I can keep things in .he can give pain and I can bear it to any extend .I m proud that only i can create the path for the survival of human existence. Then why should I be shushing.
I just want to ask you why? Why men should not know about it? Why they shouldn’t beware of the reason behind all those irritations and mood swing they make  joke of? Why they shouldn’t know that to be a mother we don’t just sacrifice those damm 9 months and our career but we go through a huge pain since our entire teenage and adulthood, through all those years when they blame us to be in efficient and weak? They should know about what we are going through.
I really believe that man should be aware of everything like that so that they start respecting women around them.
Remember all those session during your early teenage when girls had a special seminar about sanitary napkins and menstrual hygiene and what did guys do they wait ,they wait outside developing their own funny stories to laugh on .the make there own assumptions. The entire age they remain unaware of the truth and just die along with their misconceptions .and how would they get to know this? Who would tell them about that? when females don’t allow themselves to talk about this, and then we expect men to understand our pain.
Yes I do remember that chapter 9 of NCERT book in class 8th “Reproduction” for which entire class was excited but no one was interested to teach .whatever my teacher taught me was all about plants and rest all was bla bla….english that flew off my brain.
So, this bla bla and lack of awareness made this situation more difficult and uncomfortable for women.
When in this era you celebrate international women’s day and when we talk about women empowerment and equality. then why don’t we understand that sharing and talking about such topics would let men understand women in a much better way and respect them, they won’t judge her in fact would rather try to help her..
If a sperm is important for further DNA extension then ovum is equally important too….
It’s a process not a taboo…
Feel free to talk about periods don’t make it feel like a curse, it’s just another painful process that makes you stronger that makes you a complete women…
Be proud to be what you are…
Feel proud to be a woman…
Thanks for reading

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Motivation Uncategorized

Another number!!


Have you ever watched the movie “Ye Jawani Hai Dewani” really a great concept about life. Remember what did bunny said “unlike others I’m not goanna have same boring life, graduations till 22, job at 24, married by 25, and then after retirement wait…wait till you die”.sound like so boring and lifeless .well that’s the reality and how we actually live not everyone but most of us .I’m sure about at least 90% of us.
A life full of responsibilities, stress, office targets, and pressure to score high, compeditions, studies and bla bla bla…..we have so much to do in such small time.
I so wish if a day could be of more than 24hr.so that at least I could sleep for sometime peacefully. Well can’t help it right?
The era has changed, people are changing too. Now parents do ask their kids about their career preferences rather than imposing their own incomplete dreams.
But, are you guys still sure about whatever you are doing? Are you sure about the course you are perusing at present? About the job you are doing? Were you really sure about what to choose after high school?
I don’t know about you people but I wasn’t. I have never got enough time to explore and try new things, neither to discover my own new personality ,or to think about what I like and what I dislike? What I want do ?How I want to be ?every time I was busy in shaping myself according to the vessel my parents poured me into .
I thought after 10th I’ll be having 3 months (enough time) to think about my future but my bad luck there were no vacations my classes started just after few days of my exams .I opted PCM only because my brother told me that by this I’ll be having many options to mold my career whenever I would be ready and now I would be having two years to decide.
Sounds fine? Yeah…
Now, after I have entered in class XI I got busy with lectures, coaching’s, syllabus, competitions etc. Through all those years I was running behinds everything, and forgot to stop and think, of the direction where I wanted to go. I was just rushing along with that flock of sheep.
Then after 12th my father asked –“what do you want to be? “I was all blank…
I had no idea about what is B.tech for? What is B.com for? What is the difference between B.sc and B.A? What will theses courses make you? What are all UG courses which one was for PG? I didn’t know about any of them.
Because I wasn’t ready with any idea so, my father told me to pursue Btech and become an electrical engineer. I said ok cool no issue. Now the next issue was about college. As I didn’t had any idea about what’s really going .so my destiny threw me here in Bansthali Vidhypith where after spending three years I’ve realized that not every course is worth pursuing and especially when you are not really sure …
Here day after day I have met different kind of people ,faced many challenges ,explored a lot and the best thing I discovered most of me yeah not the whole of me but the most the most of me .
So now I know at least engineering is not my cup of tea…
And that I was made for something else…
May be that’s psychology, may be law, may be literature, I don’t know but I m pretty sure that’s not engineering.
Now a question arises why? Why I’m still doing it? Why I’m still trying to fall in love with these complicated circuits which has made my brain system corrupted? Well that’s only because of my age come on I’m 21 I should be earning before I get 24 and marriage ,you know how the society is ?All those great guys would get booked by the time I’ll be 26 …ha-ha really ??
So that’s why I can’t think of starting my journey with a whole new pace …and is it worth starting with a zero? Is it worth struggling when I’ll need more of my age to invest?
Now do you realize why people usually give upon their dreams and keep on doing the same shit with same unhappy faces? Just because of so many questions which enter into your brain more like virus that eats up all your decision making files…
but why is that age matters more than your life when it’s just the 20% of yours and you are sacrificing whole damm 80%for that ?I can’t waste my 80% in just crying and regretting that I could have been happier if I would have taken just a small step for myself .
I think there is no particular age when you get to know yourself completely. Every next day you discover a new you .and in this life, age could never be a time limit when you have no surety about the next second of your life …
Feel free to do whatever you with to do and whenever you want to .don’t let your age stop you .it’s just another number doesn’t matter if its 21,41or if even its 81…
Live this life, just don’t spend it….
Thanks for reading …

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Motivation Social media

femenism#beinghuman

Man and Woman Being Weighed on Scales


People talking about feminism ,gender equality ,women empowerment and so much stuff.celebrating international women’s day thanking all the women of society.debating about women exploitation .but how many of you do remember about men’s day ?yes I agree there are so many issues about women that needs attention and I agree that women has a right to celebrate their day they needs to be appreciated, they needed to be thanked and we considerably have a list of so many days for appreciating every single role of a women if its daughters day ,mother’s day ,rakhshabandhan or this women’s day itself .But how many of you remember father’s day ,or you celebrated Son’s day OK leave that how many of you know about 19 th November ?yes this is when men’s day has to be celebrated .
I agree that women plays a great role in building up a family and the society but mens are as equally important for the society .
No ,now don’t judge me weither I m a real feminist or not !!yes I m a true feminist .I talk about women empowerment I talk about women safety but here we need to understand what feminism actually says ..
Its not about just the empowerment of the women its about treating both the gender equally .do you really think that a man has never been exploited or been harassed at his work place or anywhere ??that they don’t have any restrictions ? They do yes they get harassed been abused and not just you are being restricted in a set of protocols to be like a girl to be sensitive and delecate ,sacrificing etc..,a guy equally grows up with the pressure to show his masculinity, to have beards ,to be strong have muscles etc..,As a women is expected to be a great homemaker equally a man is expected to be the earning one .
Its not about letting women into the man’s world its about letting yourself as how you really wanna be.
Be a human without #beingwoman or else #beingman.
Don’t hesitate to register your complains if you have ever been exploited or been abused no matter whats your gender.no matter who you are a male ,a female or even if you are transgender ….
This is the Time we need to think about how are society needs to be not about how worst it has been since years ago ..
I think when we talk about safety we should make our society human friendly not just women friendly …

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Motivation

When you say you are lonely !!


Hey guys since these day I have been observing many people updating quotes telling everyone that I m so lonely I have nobody yeah that song that used to be my ringtone for a long time …
But seriously guys have u ever thought why we feel lonely ..? We have so many people around ..actually u know what feelings like being lonely and feeling of togetherness is in your own hands until and unless u are lost in some African forests umm but some people might enjoy animals company as well haha ..well jokes apart what u have to feel is in your hands .say u wanna feel lonely just close your doors sit on to the window side and say I m so lonely I m so lonely nobody cares for me and start memorising every negative thing every bad thing happened to u ever since you were born .even when u said hi to a stranger and he didn’t reply take it as an insult take it as ignorance .and start ignoring people feel like everyone hates u nobody wants u and yes people those who cares for u will surely try to know what happened to u suddenly. they would probably ask but no here u d need not to reply ignore behave rude very rude so that one day they would give upon u…they won’t hate u for sure but they would get tired someday .
On the other hand if u wanna feel being loved being pampered then that’s a tough task u need to put up hard efforts u need to ignore negative aspects of every relationship u need to see positive side and seriously that’s the toughest part being positive ohh god ye to na hopayega.and then try to get involved with people don’t wait for them to ask if u wanna join .next is u need to sacrifice u need to cooperate .u need to behave nicely .u need to share feeling with people u need to tell them what u expect from them exactly rather than keeping it into your personal dairies.
So I guess we feel lonely because feeling lonely is rather an easy task.
Just open your doors and allow people they are actually waiting outside …